Preventing Relapse in to Harmful Online Behaviour
Recovery from addiction to harmful online behaviour can be a challenging yet rewarding journey. The real test often lies in navigating the complexities of daily life. This is where a relapse prevention plan (RPP) becomes an invaluable tool. An RPP is a personalised roadmap that empowers individuals in recovery to anticipate and manage triggers, impulses, and high-risk situations. It serves as a constant reminder of the progress made and equips the individual with strategies to stay on the path to a healthy life.
The Relapse Process: Understanding the Threat
Relapse isn’t a sudden event. It’s a gradual process often characterised by three stages.
- Emotional relapse: This involves negative emotions, stress, or unresolved issues that can fuel impulses.
- Mental relapse: Here, thoughts about engaging in old behaviours return. Idealisation of past behaviour and minimising the consequences are common.
- Physical relapse: This is the actual engaging in the harmful online behaviour.
An RPP helps identify these warning signs and equips the individual with tools to intervene at each stage, preventing relapse.
Benefits of a Relapse Prevention Plan
Having a well-defined RPP offers a multitude of benefits.
- Increased Self-Awareness: Creating an RPP fosters self-reflection. You’ll identify your unique triggers, early warning signs of relapse, and personal strengths to build upon.
- Improved Coping Mechanisms: An RPP equips you with healthy coping skills to manage stress, impulses, and difficult emotions. This could include relaxation techniques, mindfulness exercises, or engaging in positive activities.
- Enhanced Support System: Developing an RPP often involves collaboration with therapists, support groups, and loved ones. This strengthens your support network and ensures everyone understands how to best assist you during challenging times.
- Empowerment and Confidence: Creating a personalised plan fosters a sense of control and confidence. You know you have strategies in place to navigate challenges and remain committed to break free.
- Reduced Risk of Relapse: Studies have shown that individuals with a well-defined RPP have a significantly lower chance of relapse compared to those without one.
Building Your Relapse Prevention Plan: A Step-by-Step Guide
Creating an effective RPP requires introspection and planning. Here’s a step-by-step approach to guide you.
1. Identify Your Triggers: Recognise the people, places, situations, or emotions that can trigger impulses or thoughts of engaging. Be honest with yourself and consider past relapses to understand your specific vulnerabilities.
2. Develop Coping Mechanisms: For each trigger, brainstorm healthy coping strategies. This could involve relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation, engaging in physical activities, reaching out to a trusted friend or therapist, or practicing mindfulness exercises.
3. Build a Strong Support System: Identify individuals who understand your recovery journey and are committed to supporting you. This could include therapists, support group members, family members, or friends. Include their contact information in your RPP for easy access when needed.
4. Plan for High-Risk Situations: Certain situations might pose a higher risk of relapse. Identify such scenarios and brainstorm alternative actions you can take.
5. Create an Impulse Management Plan: Develop strategies to manage impulses without slipping in to old harmful behaviours. This could involve distracting yourself with a favorite activity, talking to a trusted friend, or practicing relaxation techniques.
6. Practice Self-Care: Prioritise activities that promote your physical and mental wellbeing. This includes getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and engaging in hobbies you enjoy. Self-care strengthens your resilience and fosters a positive outlook.
7. Regularly Review and Update Your Plan: Recovery is a dynamic process. Regularly review and update your RPP as your needs and circumstances evolve. This ensures your plan remains relevant and effective.
Exercise
Complete the below template to develop your own RPP.
1. Professional Support Network
- Name
- Organisation
- Contact Number
2. Personal Support Network
- Name
- Relationship
- Contact Number
3. Behaviours that I know to be risky for me (Risky behaviour means behaviours that are more likely to lead to harmful online activity)
4. Why these behaviours are risky for me
5. My plan for managing/avoiding these behaviours
6. Thoughts that I know to be risky for me (Risky thoughts means thoughts that are more likely to lead to harmful online activity)
7. Why these thoughts are risky for me
8. My plan for managing/controlling these risky thoughts
9. Feelings/mood states that I know to be risky for me (Risky feelings/mood states means feelings and moods that are more likely to lead to harmful online activity)
10. Why these feelings/mood states are risky for me
11. My plan for managing these risky feelings/mood states when they happen
12. Things/behavioural signs that people should look out for which suggest I am having risky/dangerous/unhelpful thoughts and feelings and might be engaging in risky/dangerous/unhelpful activities
13. How will I try to conceal these warning signs?
14. Behaviours that I know to be positive/good for me, so that I do not even think of engaging in harmful online activity (Positive behaviours means behaviours that are more likely to promote an offence-free life and reduce the risk of re-engaging in harmful online activity)
15. My first steps in trying to undertake these positive behaviours in my life
16. Sexual thoughts and fantasies that are positive/good for me because they lead me to have appropriate sexual thoughts and feelings (Positive sexual thoughts and fantasies means thoughts and fantasies that are more likely to promote an offence-free life and reduce the risk of re-engaging in harmful online activity)
17. Thoughts that are positive/good for me because they encourage me to lead a good life (This includes general thoughts, not just sexual thoughts)
18. My first steps towards putting my positive thoughts in to practice
19. Good moods/feelings in which I do not even think of engaging in harmful online activity (Positive moods/feelings means moods and feelings that are more likely to promote an offence-free life and reduce the risk of re-engaging in harmful online activity)
20. My plan for helping me to have these positive moods more often
21. What good things/needs did I meet/secure though my harmful online behaviour?
22. My plans for securing these good things and meeting these needs without engaging in harmful online behaviour.
23. What does a good life for me look like?
24. What will leading a good life make me think and feel about myself?
25. What are my first steps to achieving a good life?
26. How will leading a good life affect the people who are close to me?
27. What will happen to other people I care about if I re-engage in harmful online activity?
28. What are my goals for the next 3 months? (Identify at least 3 goals)
29. What are my goals for the next 6 months? (Identify at least 3 goals)
30. What are my goals for the next 12 months? (Identify at least 3 goals)